Motherhood doesn’t have to be lonely.
Its 4 AM, your baby WILL NOT go to sleep, and you’re so tired that you’re almost in tears. Your husband is sleeping peacefully, the neighborhood is dark, and you feel like you’re the only person in the world who could possibly be awake right now. You are not alone, Mama.
You’re in Walmart and your baby is screaming her head off. You’re trying to calm her down and having absolutely no success. Strangers are looking at you as if you set your child on fire, or doing everything they can not to look at you at all. You are not alone, Mama.
Your baby keeps waking up every 3 hours at night. You’ve tried everything – all the recommendations, all the training, all the advice. Nothing is working. You’re at your wits end and you feel like your baby will NEVER sleep through the night. You are not alone, Mama.
You wanted to breastfeed so bad. You drink all the water, take all the suppliments, you even pump regularly. But no matter what you do, you still can’t produce enough to keep your child full. You’re having to supplement with formula and you feel guilty. You are not alone, Mama.
No matter how alone you feel, how unique your struggle may feel, how unsolvable your problem may seem – just know that you are not alone, Mama. There are millions of other new mothers out there, struggling through this new role just as much as you are. Becoming a mother can be tough – but it doesn’t have to be lonely. Reach out to friends, family, other Mama’s; even to parenting groups on Facebook. Share your woes, unload your problems, and vocalize your struggles. Don’t keep all that stress bottled up, Mama.
Speaking mother to mother, we WANT to hear your struggles. We want to know we’re not the only ones who can’t get our baby to roll over, even though ALL the other babies are doing it. We want to know we aren’t the only ones who cry when their baby cries. We want to know that we aren’t the only ones who hold a little resentment towards our non-child bearing, non-child birthing, non-breastfeeding husbands. Most of all, though, we just want somebody to talk to and laugh with about our suffering.
To all the Mama’s out there who have listened to my parenting problems and helped me laugh through them; THANK YOU. And to all the Mama’s who have read about my struggles and been able to breathe a sigh of relief or let a little giggle out; please keep finding comfort in knowing that you are not alone. I am always here to lend an ear, a coffee, and a laugh.